I have to admit, I am challenged by the non binary as well - I've always identified as binary. I'm trans and binary. I've never doubted I'm male. When I was growing up, I 'passed' as male more often than not, but I was androgynous. I hated being stuck in that mode. (Of course, non…Read more Non Binary
School Post
Socialization
This post hit home for me. There has been an underlying assumption that I've encountered talking to people that I was socialized as female, not male. I don't feel that at all. Other people were able to "fit into" the assigned social role, perhaps the dysphoria didn't impact them as young as it did me.…Read more Socialization
A different spin
So, today's post is a little different. My morning started with a high school classmate that I'd not spoken to in years asking to chat. His child is coming out as trans. One of the worries I hear from parents of trans kids is the worry that they'll be able to make a life for…Read more A different spin
Transgender Day of Visibility
#TDoV Today is the Transgender Day of Visibility. It's been celebrated, mostly online, since 2009, as a day for trans people to be out, open, and visible in the world. It's a day to celebrate the lived lives of trans people. I hosted a phone call with my company today. People called in from all…Read more Transgender Day of Visibility
Random thoughts
I have to do random thoughts tonight. The class I'm taking this semester is Digital Cultures. Who the &*$* knew that before the semester was over, we'd all be living in a digital culture? Where our computers and our smartphones are the only things keeping us all connected? It's surreal. A few years ago, I…Read more Random thoughts
Social Distancing
We're all trying to practice social distancing right now, if we are reasonable, responsible, human beings. Some of us are better at it than others. Introverts are happily rejoicing - finally, we're not forced to interact with people all day. Extroverts are trying to figure out how they're going to survive without all of the…Read more Social Distancing
Seismic Shifts
I am a couple of days late with this post (I'm trying to post Tuesday and Friday for school, not that it's a hard and fast rule). As everyone knows, the last week has been kind of incredible with the spread of COVID-19, and it's only the beginning of the curve. My month started with…Read more Seismic Shifts
Loss
link to tweet There are lots of things floating about on Twitter. The one above hurt my heart. There is a link to the tweet just below it. There is a lot of conversation that has happened between people because of this one tweet. What's common is that every trans person can viscerally feel this…Read more Loss
Language Matters
I'm feeling more than a little vulnerable tonight. I had to take my mom to the hospital on Monday. While she was admitted, and came out ok; the father of one of my best friends was dismissed from the ER a couple of days ago; he died last night. I'm struggling with life and death…Read more Language Matters
Grateful
A copy of this tweet showed up in my Facebook feed today. One of my 'nieces' posted it, actually, which is always a nice feeling. My friends' kids have slowly found out about my history and status as a trans man as they have gotten older. Their unwavering support has been a great gift. Back…Read more Grateful