I haven't written a new post in a while. My original goal was to make sure I had at least one new post a month. Life got overwhelming early this year, and it was all I could do to keep up with the must-do list. Many of my other life goals had to be postponed…Read more Representation Matters
Nothing Stops Anymore…
If you're over a certain age, have you noticed that nothing stops anymore? I imagine that younger folks may not even notice, in fact, some of them may still profess to be bored. I've been down with the flu this week, so I made myself stop. I kept myself from getting sicker and got some…Read more Nothing Stops Anymore…
If Life is not complex….
I'm currently reading Jennifer Finney Boylan's book, Stuck in the Middle With You: A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders. Jenny's premise in this book is to explore the nature and character of parenting, in light of her experience of being a transgender parent of two sons. She has interludes between her story where she…Read more If Life is not complex….
The Flip Side of being Out
Those of us who are LGBT live on a "coming out wheel." We don't just come out once. Every new person we meet, every new job, new class, new social situation starts the process over again. Sometimes we feel used to it, but often it's a familiar feeling of motion sickness, if you will. Some…Read more The Flip Side of being Out
The times, they are a’changing…or…the more things change, the more they stay the same
I've heard people say that Obama did more to increase racism issues in eight years than any of his predecessors. The only thing he did was get elected to office twice. The simmering undercurrent of race issues in the US has been here all along. Over the last couple of weeks, the rock has been…Read more The times, they are a’changing…or…the more things change, the more they stay the same
Connection Time
I've spent some time in the last few weeks traveling around the country visiting family and "framily" - friends who qualify as family, without the blood relation connection. Some of the reasons I've had for going is to see the younger people; seeing my best-longest-term (not "oldest") friend's little boys, ages 6 and meeting the…Read more Connection Time
Quo Veritas?
We are living in a time and space where most things feel surreal. Life goes on, but the larger conversations and politics have an unreal glow about them. Now the trend is to shout "Fake News" at any article or allegation that one disagrees with. Thank you, insincerely, Mr. President. A generation ago, I had…Read more Quo Veritas?
Love, Actually
Despite being the title of a friend's favorite movie, what is love, actually? I listened to a sermon / homily this morning that made the point that love was more than the little acts like playing a game with a child or bringing flowers to a spouse. For things to be love, it requires a…Read more Love, Actually
Faith and Pride
It's June, so Pride month is on. Depending on who you are, that means a lot of different things. For some, it's an opportunity to gather with community; and yet some others feel excluded from the same community. Others take the most extreme examples from Pride events and show them off as how depraved "the…Read more Faith and Pride
Things no one tells you…
A small reflection that's bounced into my non-stop brain today: aging is an odd experience. I don't feel any older. I look it. No one has asked for my ID in a long time when I've ordered or purchased alcohol. I don't feel any older. But, I've been a Boy Scout leader for so long…Read more Things no one tells you…
Musings in Twilight 